So, I have a confession to make to you all. I have unofficially been diagnosed with Imposter Syndrome…
Like I mentioned in a recent post where I talk about how to make healthy boundaries, I briefly talked about my desire to essentially be perfect for anybody and at everything. All-in-all, I have struggled with the fear of abandonment and rejection, causing me to lack boundaries as well as striving for perfection in almost all aspects of my life. Super unhealthy, I know. However, I am here to provide you all with the 10 ways I work o overcoming Imposter Syndrome!
so, what even is imposter syndrome? let me explain…
An awesome article on Psychology Today (which I recommend reading here) defines Imposter Syndrome as being “[a] psychological phenomenon in which people are unable to internalize their accomplishments.” The article goes on to state that “[t]he imposter syndrome is a psychological term referring to a pattern of behavior where people doubt their accomplishments and have a persistent, often internalized fear of being exposed as a fraud. Not an actual disorder, the term was coined by clinical psychologists Pauline Clance and Suzanne Imes in 1978, when they found that despite having adequate external evidence of accomplishments, people with imposter syndrome remained convinced that they don’t deserve the success they have.”
So, all-in-all, what it all boils down to is the inability for someone to admit and accept that they are successful and have achieved and accomplished things. Super sucky, to be honest. And while I think that we have all questioned ourselves and downplayed our successes, Imposter Syndrome is a whole new level of this, unfortunately.
Regardless of the number of subscribers I had, followers I had gained, or praise I had received for my awesome content, I still felt compelled to discredit all of my hard work and instead pretty much bash myself. I always felt like I was always somehow behind or not good enough, despite the evidence that so clearly showed me how well I was (and am) doing. And with more and more people coming out as bloggers, I immediately started comparing myself to everybody; their content, their social media. Everything. Nothing I was doing was as good as what they were doing. That, my friends, is what I kept telling myself 0ver and over. And when you tell yourself something over and over for so long, you eventually start to believe it.
how did I start feeling this way?
How and why someone “inherits” this belief that they are not deserving of success and that they are “frauds” is unknown. But, what is known is that there are, in fact, ways to overcome it…
Thank God, right? I know!!
With that being said, here are the things I do to make sure that I give myself the respect I deserve when I start to think bad things about myself and my successes and accomplishments (and mind you, these things take time, discipline and practice) —
1 | I humble myself; this is KEY
2 | I make sure to tell myself that I have a right to be here and that I am exactly where I need to be
3 | Instead of comparing myself to others, I tell myself, “I am so happy that they are where they are. I hope to achieve that soon!”
4 | I keep checklists and make sure to check off all of my completed tasks and goals; doing this allows me to see that I am actually getting stuff done
5 | I keep track of my progress on any and all tasks, projects, etc., so that I have proof of my achievements
6 | I have a handful of positive affirmations that I tell myself daily
7 | I always accept compliments even when I feel uncomfortable
8 | I make sure to spend time with myself and treat myself; self-care is super important
9 | I journal about my feelings because they are valid
Lastly, I always make sure to —
Are you struggling with overcoming Imposter Syndrome? Or, have you dealt with it in the past? You’re not alone. Comment below and tell me about your experiences with iy and how you work to rid yourself of I.S.
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Thanks for reading! I love you all and remember that you’re exactly where you need to be and that all of your hard work is paying off! ❤️❤️❤️