So, instead of adding a lot of fluff to what I’m about to say, I am just going to come right out and say it, since I will only ever be honest, authentic, and transparent on my blog (and in real life, too) – I have been experiencing burnout these last few weeks. How and why you may ask? Stress. Excessive stress, to be exact.
“Why stress if everything is going so well?” Good question…
The short answer to that is that the body recognizes and picks up on everything (and I mean EVERYTHING) before the brain gets to even fully process all of what is going on/happened. It’s honestly really interesting, but I won’t go into full detail about the brain, the amygdala, the hypothalamus, or the nervous system in full, because this is a blog, not your high school chemistry class. You’re welcome 😉
However, I will go into detail about my stress, though. I’m being honest, I think (well, I knew) I was taking on more than I ever have before. But because of the fact that my blog is doing extremely well and my work as a freelancer is going great, too, I decided to keep pushing myself and taking on more and more jobs and more and more clients. And because what goes up, must come down, I noticed myself slowly losing motivation and energy. However, because I am super stubborn and never like to disappoint anybody, in that I wanted to finish all of what I had started (and more), I started taking my stresses out on my lover. And not only that, I started to not take as good of care of myself as I should have.
that ^ was literally me lol
Once I started noticing a change in my mood, my energy levels, my loss (and lack) of motivation, and the increase in irritability and agitation, I decided to take a step back. And I don’t want to say that I waited until it was too late, because I don’t think that’s true. I did, however, wait until it had affected more than just myself – it was beginning to affect my relationship with my boyfriend (who, bless his heart forever, is so patient, forgiving, and loving), my work + work ethic, etc.
Because let’s face it — how can I give my best to Adam (hi, baby 😍), my family + friends, my blog, my clients, and the work for my clients if I can’t even give the best to myself!?
This was when I needed to make healthy boundaries for myself.
And I get it — change is not easy, especially when we are already so overwhelmed and want nothing more than to just lay in bed for days and not do anything. But, when you have people and things in your life that make life worth living, I firmly believe that the opportunity (and the desire) to change becomes more “attractive,” per sé.
With that being said, the first thing I decided to do was write. Yes, write. Writing is something I’m very good at and passionate about, as well, so its always been a sort of release and escape for me. And, unfortunately, I had stopped writing/journaling as frequently as I used to, so writing again felt nice and rather peaceful, I might add. I’m also a lover of lists. I love, love, love lists, because they help me keep my thoughts, tasks, feelings, etc., all organized and easy for me to read and understand. That said, I made multiple lists —
- list one: the things I am most grateful for
- list two: what I want to change about myself and how I am living life
- list three: what I want to do less of
- list four: what I want to do more of
I then compared all of the lists, made a final list of the changes I am going to make, and prepared for and adjusted my life according to my new list —
the action plan/the list of things I am going to do to put myself on the path that I want for myself
After I came up with my final list, list 5 — my action plan. I then knew there were certain things I was going to have to start doing immediately, like a) wake up in the morning at a certain time, (before or at; TBD) 9:30 am, b) eating way healthier, and c) working out at least 4 times a week.
And while I did have a set schedule when I started blogging, life happens and I, unfortunately, stopped using my very strict schedule and sort of starting doing whatever, whenever. And while I was still working hard, I constantly felt like I was losing time and/or not getting as much done as I should. Anyways, I suggest going and taking a read, because it can prove to be very useful for you!
Once my action plan was in place, I took note of the very things that make me feel calm, at peace, and relaxed. After I did that, I made my very own self-care toolkit.
What’s a self-care toolkit? Allow me to explain!
A self-care toolkit is “a simple information booklet that could provide you with some handy tips and skills to support you along the way to manage your health condition.” That said, a self-care toolkit can come in many different formats, but they all aim to do two very important things: 1. help you understand yourself + 2. help you improve the ways in which you choose to go about caring for yourself (your mind, your body, and your spirit).
So, not only did I make my own self-care toolkit for myself (and for you all, too), I also invested in some more items + products, like the ones seen on my personal altar/sacred space, that personally bring me comfort and peace, such as —
- birthday cake scented candles | get mine here (affiliate link)
- more journals and notebooks
- king cake incense | get mine here (affiliate link)
- stress ball | get mine here (affiliate link)
- small photo album of my favorite people + my dog
- an evil eye bracelet
What do you have in your life that calms you down and makes you feel at peace? Need some help brainstorming? You have come to the right place, lovely!
Thanks for reading! Love to you all!